Thursday, January 19, 2006

How old is too old?

While driving around running errands today, we were listening to the radio & the presenters were talking about a lady overseas who gave birth to her one & only child through IVF this time last year... at the age of 67!! This sparked a debate, with the question being 'How old is to old to be having babies?' This topic intrigued me as it was something I hadnt really thought about it, though I have to admit that when I read about people in their late 40s having kids, it seemed sad to me & not quite right. But really, how old is too old? 67 is too old I think. So many things to consider if your thinking of having kids at that age. Apart from the obvious health issues for mum during pregnancy, but personally knowing how much energy you need to chase a toddler, how would you have the stamina to do so at that age? I dont want to sound judgemental but this lady has no family, hardly any friends & very limited income, & lets face it, probably entering the last part of her life cycle. So where does this leave her little girl? If shes still here when her daughter is 15, will she be needed to look after her 82 year old mum rather than hanging out with friends, going out on dates & basically being a teenager? Maybe the little girl will be lucky & mum will live to a ripe old age without much care needed at all, who knows. But a big risk to take I think, condemning your child to the very real possibility of losing mum at a young age & never remembering the love of a mother never mind the fact that this little girl has no family other than her mum.All because mum decided in her twilight years that it was time to have a baby. I think its irresponsible given the personal circumstances of this particular lady. We all have a fair idea of when someone is too young but with the technology available to us today, if you can do it, there really is no age that makes you too old to have a baby is there? Just a thought.

1 comment:

Shanley said...

you know me i have a big piggy bank full of "my 2 cents woth"! I think there is an age where I think it is selfish to have children. I reckon that 50 would be the max but more like 45. Depending on your health you can still be pretty active up to around 75. Well my grannies are anyway. If you had a kid at 50 they would be 20 by the time you were 70 which i think is passable, but shite who would want a teenager at that age. I think this lady is extremely selfish in bringing a child into the world at that age with no family. She should have got herself a CAT :-D